My story
The Beginning
Every story needs a beginning, and mine wasn’t really that exciting. I was extremely shy when I was young, always doing my best to stay in the background and go out of my way not to interact with other people. Feigning illness so I could stay out of school, overexaggerating my asthma so I didn’t have to do sports, sitting in my room all day playing video games and practicing the bass so I didn’t have to play with other kids.
Obviously after years of doing this I didn’t develop a lot of social skills. I felt awkward being around people. I didn’t feel like I had much - if anything - to add to conversations so I rarely did. I could not really express myself emotionally or physically even though I was a very sensitive kid. When I was fifteen my constant self-isolation and depressive tendencies caused me to be placed into a psychiatric hospital. I’d like to say it helped me change and accept myself but that wasn’t really the case. I wasn’t ready to change or at least did not realize I could, even with the added support. So the following years I was still struggling to connect with myself and with others. I did end up in a relationship with a girl who was as broken inside as I thought I was. We supported each other as much as we could but carrying each others baggage ended up being too much to bear and so after over five years I ended it.
The Turning Point
After the break-up I contemplated my life up to that point and the path I envisioned it leading me on if I didn’t change anything. And what I envisioned angered, scared, frustrated and frankly bored me. A live of unfulfilled potential, unlived dreams and empty stories. A life of boring mediocracy.
I knew changes had to be made but I did not know how, what or where. I didn’t have an important figure to look up to, a guide to show me the way. A mentor to steer me in the right direction and support me when I wavered or failed. I searched for anything that could possibly help. Watched hours and hours of Ted talks and similar videos on youtube. Read so many bad self-help books. Tried out any personal challenge I could find: NoFap, cold showers, unyielding eye-contact and so many others. I was always a chubby guy so I started to hit the gym hard and I finally started taking dance classes, something I always wanted to do but never did out of fear of other guys judging me.
Sure my general confidence grew through all these activities but I was still terrible at expressing my desires to women. Friendship was not a problem, I had been putting myself in the friendzone for years. But being a hormone raging 24 year-old I needed this part to change, as fast as possible even. This however took many more years than getting fit, or learning how to socialize. Again I had no guidance, so I basically had to try and fail. Miss so many beautiful opportunities because I was to oblivious to notice them or too insecure to act on them. Luckily my desire to change was so strong that slowly I did start to see results, through constantly pushing myself as best as I could. And picking myself back up when I stumbled.
The Accelerant
After many years of this I eventually became good at seduction. Or at least better than most guys around me. Yet I knew I still had a lot of progress to make. During those years I had encountered the world of pickup, which did not vibe with me at all. I was as far from the alpha, high-energy, boastful, overconfident guy you could get. And frankly I didn’t want to be such a person. Only when I found Seduction later on I felt I had found my community. A community where your own unique personality could be honed and cultivated into seductive success. Never having had a mentor I decided to finally train with those who I considered to be the best in their field. I trained with masters of daygame, masters of inner game and trained to be the sex god I always wanted to be.
Never having had much of a mentor during most of my journey I really experienced the insane value a trained coach can give to your progress. Not only to speed up the process exponentially but make it incredibly more fun. So as my own skills progressed I started helping the guys close to me who were still further back on their journey. Helping other struggling men turned into a passion and a mission. One that I mean to continue for as long as I possibly can.
The benefits of this work are more profound than you can possible imagine when you’re still starting. So the most important advice I can give is to allow yourself to have all you’ve ever dreamed of and build on the backs of those who are further along the process. The only regret you will have is not doing it sooner.
Sanne
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